Comical Conversations III

How is it already summer and better question: how am I not “summer-ready”?  Well ultimately it boils down to the fact that I have not worked out, I’ve been eating anything I wanted and enjoying living out at the beach with my friends nearby.

But that’s all changing and I am ready to take on the challenge.  I realized that I will never be able to date happily until I am happy with  myself. So I’ve set a goal to lose some weight and I’m going to accomplish this (do you like how I didn’t use the phrase “try to accomplish this”) by doing intermittent fasting and meal planning.  Not prepping, but planning.  I am going to try to limit my carb intake and cook more at home – this is going to be hard for the girl who is so social.

I have been on a few dates recently and they’ve all been good in their own ways, but nothing seems like it’ll go anywhere.

I’ll go back to the “dude man” story-telling because those were always a hit, but in reality, I don’t have anything bad to say about any of them, so connotation may be a bit off.

Dude man #1:  Still talking to, but on first date, he told me he recently lost his job and there’s actually a lawsuit he has pursuing for wrongful termination.  There are various articles in the news and everything he said is, without a doubt, legit. But I feel he’s actually not in a great spot right now to date because a) he’s trying to find another job and b) he has to watch his pennies. (My words, not his – he actually seems to have it together pretty smart and said he’s got a lot of money in savings, so he’ll be fine) He did ask me out again and we’re supposed to go out this week, but I do feel weird since he doesn’t have a job and I do.  I KNOW, I SHOULDN’T, but I do.

Dude man #2: Went out with him on a spur of the moment Reggae Sunday – it was fun, weird because another friend of his was there when I first arrived, but also fun because I saw tons of people I knew and was able to talk to them without feeling guilty.  The really interesting part of the day was that he ordered seven shots of Fireball (I couldn’t help but count after the first couple) not sure how I felt about that.  He was responsible and uber’d home, but still weird for a first date.

What was interesting about Dude man #2:  he started to evaluate me and I asked him to give me three words to describe me.  He said calculated and guarded – I didn’t quite get that because I’m a HUGE open book.  Then he said he was struggling with the third one because he had three and couldn’t pick which one to use.  I said to give me all three and they were:  Intelligent, witty and confident.  (I’ll take that!)

SIDE STORY:  As I was sitting at Reggae Sunday, Dude man #2 ran out to get something out of his car, a guy who appeared to spend about 27 hours a week in the gym came up and approached me asking where my boyfriend went. To keep things simple: I just said “he went to get something out of his car and will be right back” He immediately started saying he doesn’t want any trouble, but if things didn’t work out between me and him, then I should give him a call.  This dude proceeded to hit on EVERY.SINGLE.GIRL there. It was comical and I told Dude man #3 and we couldn’t stop laughing while watching his persistence. 

Dude man #3:  Nice guy from Pennsylvania – he’s got a weird sense of humor, not in a bad way, just weird. I’m not sure if I want to see him again, he’s already asked and I made an excuse why I can’t – that’s not a great sign. I get a text from him every evening that says “how was your day” and I think to myself, GIVE ME SOMETHING MORE!!!!

Dude man #4:  (I actually forgot about this one until I looked at my calendar) This one is probably the best because he was a typical New Jersey guy. Here on business and said he’s not tied to NJ and ready to move.  He asked me out as I was sitting on the couch one random Tuesday at like 7:45 and my immediate inclination was to say “no,” it’s a Tuesday, plus I can’t be that available.  But then I realized “why not” so I did – he said his hotel had a bar and we could hang out there — UMMMM NOPE, I’ve seen way too many murder mysteries and I’m not stupid.  I truly don’t think he was being creepy, but that is extremely creepy!  Anyway, he came out to the beach and we had a couple drinks. I was home by 11 and it wasn’t bad.  But like I said, he was a typical NJ guy, I felt he was unknowingly rude to the server and I didn’t like it, he kept getting up in my personal space and I wish I could’ve been another bar-goer and seen my body language pushing further and further away!  I think he got the hint because I haven’t heard from him since and that is OK!!!

Dude man #5: I actually had this post all written and ready to be published, but had something happen to me tonight that was unlike any of the others and one of the most absurd of them all.  So I had to share!!! We “matched” like a week or so ago, his response times were extremely delayed, today he said “should we exchange numbers” and I said “Sure!” and I gave him my number.

He texted and we had a couple (maybe six messages back and forth) He called me after I got home from work, but it only rang once on my end, I sent a text saying “did you mean to call or did you dial by accident?” He said he meant to call and I said, “Wow, I appreciate that, but I’m about to work out, can I call you when I’m done?” His response (I’m still mind-blown) “I don’t typically do this, but we seem to be wanting two different things.” Me: dumbfounded,  said “what does that mean exactly?” His response:  “You would rather workout than have an intellectual conversation with someone.” I responded (and regret even entertaining it) with “not necessarily, but would rather be able to give full attention to a conversation vs. knowing I have things I need to get done in the back of my head.” His response: “Gotcha” My response: __________(Silence)

DUDE MAN #5 ALREADY TRYING TO CAUSE AN ARGUMENT AND APPARENTLY NEEDS THE WORLD TO REVOLVE AROUND HIM!!!! NO thank you! 🙄

My friends have sent me an article that was recently published saying “Single women without kids are the happiest”  I’m not going to lie – I’m pretty happy in my life, am I ANYWHERE where I want to be, absolutely not!  BUT I’m making the best of it and not complaining at all 🙂

I just re-read some of my previous “Comical Conversations” posts and these aren’t even comparable.  I am actually a bit disappointed.  Maybe I’m choosing better, maybe dating in Jacksonville isn’t as bad as I recall, but who knows, as I’ve said before: I’ll keep my account open and at the very least, have some stories to tell!

And as an added bonus, I had dinner with some of my best girlfriends (minus a couple who were out of town) from high school and it was SO INCREDIBLY nice to see them.  With six girls who don’t see each other nearly enough, the conversation was nonstop and I left with a huge smile on my face!!!

Comical Conversations Part II

Ok, if I wasn’t convinced I was going to be single forever, I have officially determined I am going to be.  Again, it may be me, I’m not denying that.  BUT I think there are more freaks/idiots out there, then there are good men!!! Let’s get into the latest guys I’ve “matched” with online.

Dude Man #1:  Extremely good-looking.  But was he?  Was he really good looking or was it a front to get a nice girl to swipe right?  I’m going with the latter. I should know better, he had TWO pictures and one of them was black and white, that should automatically be a NO, clearly he’s hiding something or being a bit suspicious.  Anyway, I stupidly gave him a shot and initiated conversation.

Naive Female (Me):  “Hey? How was your weekend.”

DM1: “Awesome, went to Hoopla”

Naive Female (Me): “Oh wow, I ended up there accidentally, not knowing the festival was going on, but just wanting a beer up in Charlottesville.”

DM1:  “Oh yeah, we could’ve hooked up.”

Naive Female (Me): “What?” (said very naively but giving DM1 an opportunity to clear his name)

DM1: “We could’ve hung out, had a beer.”

Naive Female (Me):  “Oh right.”

DM1: “You can come have a beer with me now” (This is on Monday, granted I was off work, but kinda weird considering the little bit of convo and lack of any ‘get-to-know-you’ kind of questions)

Naive Female (Me): “No, I have a friend in town.”

DM1:  “You can bring her”

Naive Female (Me): “Thanks, but she’s not feeling well.”

DM1:  “Oh well, would you be interested in a threesome? If not with her, with someone else?”

DM1 I gotta appreciate your candor/openness, but you picked the WRONG GIRL. Sorry Dude Man #1 – DELETE!!!

Dude Man #2:  Immediately starts telling me how he never wants to get married.  WHOA?!?! Dude, I just asked how your week has been going. He starts telling me that women are only out to get men for their money and he’s not going to give all his money to a woman. I asked if he wanted kids, he said “of course, but I’m not going to get married to have the kids” we will live separately and I’m not going to give child support.  WOW – this guy sounds like a STAND UP GUY!!! 🤦🏼‍♀️ However, I was curious of his logic at this point and asked “are your parents still married?” He responds with “Yes, they’ve been married for almost 50 years now.” My response “Well then why do you think that women are only out to get money, don’t you think women make their own money?” He said he’s had a lot of friends that have been screwed.  My thoughts:  a) you’re friends are idiots for not seeing it in advance, and/or b) there’s more to the story and you’re a bit jaded.  Regardless, DELETE, doesn’t need any more of my time!!! Good luck Dude Man #2.

Dude Man #3: The short version of this guy is he kept telling me how he can be a “bad boy”, but he’s looking for a relationship. After dodging many of the comments, I finally had to say something “If you’re looking for a relationship, then you don’t need to be a ‘bad boy’ and even if you are, what’s the point in saying it to a complete stranger?  You aren’t going to find any girl worthy of your time if you keep talking like that.”  I deleted him before he could delete me, but pretty sure I pissed him off when he said “Whatever, I get plenty on my own.” Congratufreakinlations dude!!!

Dude Man #4:  I can actually appreciate this dude. He lives in Denver, but travels back and forth to Richmond.  What allows him to travel back and forth so much:  He grows his own marijuan and apparently it’s some of the best in Colorado and has cured his dog of cancer with it.  He claims he’s had a lot of job offers and could make millions, but he’s not ready to take that step and work for someone. He enjoys his lax lifestyle out there for now and flexibility to do what he wants! He asked if I smoked and I told him I don’t.  However, he still wants to take me out to a nice steak dinner and I’m torn if I go or not. I made it very clear upon first communication that I am not looking for someone like Dude Man #1 or Dude Man #3 and to be honest, I think he appreciated those stories.  We are obviously very different, but a nice steak dinner is hard to say “no” to, so I may just join him.  After all, he’s the one who suggested it…..

I would venture to say the ratio of dudes that get a swipe right (meaning I’m interested) is probably 1 in 28, and with the few I do swipe on, this is what I’m getting.  Is it me?  Do I need to start clicking on the guys who tell me their job is “Grill Cook at Waffle House” or the guys with cat whiskers on his face saying his job is “being awesome at Advance Auto Parts.” Regardless, it’s awful out there, but makes for some great stories!!!

You’re welcome! 

I am told that these are the best posts, so I’ll keep my account open for the laughter, but really hiding the pain inside 😉

SMH

Comical Conversations

This post is going to be short because I have two of my favorite ladies coming to visit me this weekend and I CANNOT be more excited 🙂 I have a laundry list of things to do, but little time to get it done!

I’m honestly not sure what I’ve been doing and why I’ve been so MIA from this blog lately, but I am staying busy and still loving it up  here.  Woke up this morning to work out and I was actually cold going to the gym!!! It was 65 degrees at 6:15am and the high today is supposed to 80 with no humidity.  I don’t think this is common for August, but I will certainly take it.

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Dating scene isn’t going any better, but that’s ok, I honestly don’t have time for it right now.  I think I mentioned before that I got on a new app and honestly I think I did it more for the comic relief.

Few of the more comical conversations:

Dude Man #1:  “Let’s hang out asap, bring your dog to my place, my little buddy (his shih-tzu) needs a friend while mommy and daddy hang out.”

Logical Female (Me): “Call me old fashioned, but I don’t think going to a complete strangers house is the smartest idea”

Dude Man #1: “All I can say is I like you, I’m a good man.”

Logical Female (Me): “You don’t even know me”

…….(thinking to myself let’s entertain this conversation a bit more)

“What kind of appraisals do you specialize in?” (this was in his profile, we have had no more conversation other than what’s mentioned above)

Dude Man #1: “I bang out the big bucks with quick office and industrial appraisals…I have my ways of getting what I want.”

Logical Female (Me): “Nice”

(that’s my way of saying end of convo, no further interaction needed)

Dude Man #1: (A couple days later) “Hey Baby, what’s up?”

Logical Female (Me):  SILENCE (baby, really?!?!)

…….(at this point, I really want to delete him, but I am more interested to see if he continues conversation and arrogance)

 

Dude Man #2: “Do you sleep with socks on or off?”

Oblivious Female (Me):  “I actually do prefer to sleep with socks on, but it’s not a necessity.  I feel it keeps me warmer and I sleep better.”

Dude Man #2:  “That’s a deal breaker, it means you have scaly feet.”

Oblivious Female (Me):  No response, just deleted and blocked him immediately – what a FREAK!!!

Now this is how you get me to continue a conversation:

Dude Man #3: “I’m a Jags fan and have been looking for someone to watch games with me!”

Excited Female (Me): “Wow, really, I didn’t think any existed in Richmond.”

Dude Man #3:  “Yeah, I’m originally from Tallahassee”

…….Where this gets really funny: He is 24!!! WHAT THE ?!?!

So on this new dating app, it asks for your age range and if it’s a deal breaker – I put age 31-41, but not a deal breaker – didn’t think it would go back to ages as young as 21!!! Guys are actually “liking” me that are 21 and one even said “You don’t look like you’re 36!” Thank you, sir – you just made my year!!! 

Anyway, back to prepping for an exciting weekend ahead 🙂 Have a great day everyone!!