OLIVIA

This post will be short and sweet. I had a couple topics that I wanted to discuss tonight, but unfortunately I wasn’t able to research them as much as I would’ve liked and I don’t want to half-ass anything. However, in an effort to live up to my promise of writing more, I figured I’d write about Olivia because this week has been quite emotional for me.

Topic came to me this evening as I got home from my sisters house and Olivia started acting really weird, we drove home with the windows down and it was raining.  (Before any haters want to hate on the way I drive my dog around town, it is what it is, I have her wrapped in my arm and she sticks her lil nose out the window – she is literally in pure happiness. I get that I should’ve trained her better from the get-go, and actually strap her in, but I didn’t and I think it’s a worthless cause at this point.)

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Everything was fine all evening, until I got home and was taking her out of my car and her leg went up into the air and froze. I quickly put her on the ground and she fell over, couldn’t walk – it was TERRIFYING for about 2.5 mins. Then she was back to herself.

REWIND 48 hours and we were on the couch recovering from dental surgery. So clearly, I was nervous that it has to do with some after effects from the surgery – why is she acting this way?

Dental Surgery scared me to death – I DID NOT want to do it, but the vet reassured me she’d be fine and I “stalked” this particular vet and went way out of my way to go to her practice! Thankfully, she called me to tell me she was doing exceptionally well throughout the surgery. However, three teeth fell out on their own and 8 were pulled. $567 later = I’m now broke and she’s less 11 teeth! But she doesn’t have stank breath anymore and can hopefully eat her food more peacefully!

Quick bio on Olivia – she will be 15 in THREE months!!! SERIOUSLY breaks my heart 15.  She was given to me as a birthday present from an ex and is the best gift I’ve ever received (sorry to anyone who has ever given me a present, but that’s tough competition right there!) PLUS she was born on my birthday 💞

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This is why it took me WAY longer to write this post than normal. She jumped up on my lap and didn’t leave!!!

 

Over Cocktails

Currently sitting here listening to my dog pant FOR NO REASON at all!! But realizing next week she is going to have to go to the vet to be put under for teeth cleaning and it is BREAKING MY HEART!! Prayers needed/appreciated!  I REALLY wanted to protest her being put under, but I caught a glimpse of her rotting teeth (along with a smell that will never leave my memory) and talked to the vet in detail – SO.MUCH.DETAIL – thankfully she was very patient with me and reassured me Olivia will be fine and because of that, I’m driving about 20 miles out of my way to go to her practice vs. the one closest to me!

I’m going to go on record and say I have NO DESIRE to write tonight, but I’m making a promise to myself to write AT LEAST once a week and I’m going to aim for THREE times a week. Granted, I am not stupid and know that it is HIGHLY unlikely, but I have to have some goals set for myself. I was in a bit of a funk a bit earlier this week when I realized that I had no “personal goals” set for myself right now. It’s funny, how I am proactively learning things, but that’s still not “enough” for me.  Does anyone else ever have that feeling, nothing is ever enough? 

So what is that? What are goals I can set for myself?

  • Run a marathon – HAHA!!! That’s definitely not going to happen.
  • Write a Children’s Book?  Yes, I’d like to eventually do that, but probably not in the near future.
    • I wrote one for my niece a long time ago, but I did not put nearly enough effort in to it. However, I could potentially work off something I’ve already started. . .
  • Learn calligraphy – well, it was on my 2018 bucket list and let’s face it, we are nearing the end of 2018, so maybe I need to start on this

Regardless, I’m going to start with something simple, writing mindless blog posts HOWEVER, I’m going to do my best to come up with different challenges for myself to follow.

I also decided that I’m going to focus on meditating every morning. SIMPLE stuff. I mean how hard can that be?  Typically check social media when I first wake up, but just as easy to meditate with the app OAK. And as I’ve been saying for a while, I want to grow my faith, so I have downloaded Abide, a Christian meditation to do before I fall asleep.

To be continued on how this progresses!

Anyway, I digress – I am still LOVING Richmond and sad to see that my trip here will be coming to an end at the end of next October. Still so much to see/do, this city has so much to offer and I cannot express how happy I have been up here!!!   (Minus missing my family/friends, of course!)

Some blog posts coming in the near future (This is me, holding myself accountable):

  • Why I’m switching to organic
  • I’m learning self-defense – more to come on that (Thanks B – who I doubt is even reading this)
  • I’m going to attempt to FAST an entire 24-hours; I’ll give a warning to anyone who sees/talks to me on a daily basis.
  • How to flirt (Let’s face it, I SUCK at it!!!)

I’ve still been working out as much as possible and tonight, I am almost gimp from a tough workout last night and this morning, so I’m enjoying a glass of wine and just hoping I’ll wake up tomorrow to make it to the gym!

I got off the dating apps, but I will likely get back on, it’s fun for stories at the very least! I wish I could have more excitement from it, but I’m beginning to really realize maybe I’m the common denominator.

Lastly, Jackie and I went out last weekend – regretfully didn’t take any pictures, but had a blast bar hopping around Scott’s Addition.  What started out as “Lunch” (at probably one of the best BBQ places I’ve ever been, ZZQ) ended up being an all day affair of drinking around town and IT.WAS.A.BLAST!!!  On Sunday, Jackie met me at a local sports bar (walking distance from my place) for a drink and I stayed the rest of the day – into the night and made some new friends!!! Can’t wait to go back this Sunday to see the Jags 3-0!! I can’t end a post without a picture or two, but unfortunately these are only pictures I have from the last week – I’m so ashamed (maybe I should make “taking more pictures” one of my future accomplishments).

OVER COCKTAILS

Well here I am with an over cocktails post, whaattt? Is it true, am I back to these?  Who honestly knows – things are either crazy busy or super slow – SERIOUSLY, Why is there never a happy medium?

Regardless, I have quite a few things to say, so bear with me!

Always fun to start with the dating shenanigans.  I deleted my online dating app, I’m not saying I won’t go back to it, but it is SERIOUSLY exhausting and I had a bad interaction with someone that made me realize it was time to focus on other things – like meeting friends (although I was using app to try to meet friends, but I’ll go to that in a bit) I went out on a few dates last week and I’m not going to lie: It’s fun to try new places, get to know new people, and keep my social calendar full.  BUT the constant disappointment is a bit frustrating.

PSA FOR THE DAY!!!

With that being said, a while back I noticed that you could Google my phone number and find out all sorts of information.  My first, middle and last name; address; previous addresses; people who have shared the address with me; family members; political party, salary and net worth (which is embarrassingly incorrect), etc. I cannot figure out how to remove the information from the internet other than opting out from a few sites, but main info is still there, FRONT AND CENTER when Googled. I find it to be absolutely MIND-BLOWING that this is legal and even considered changing my phone number. Until I realized I could set up a fake phone number using Google Voice – FOR FREE!! This is life changing – not just for dating reasons, but for any other reason you have to give out your phone number to complete strangers:  work, Craigslist, etc.

So – back to the meeting friends:  I tried the dating app to meet friends, and there were a couple girls I wanted to catch up with. One seemed super cool, she was married and new to town.  We had plans to go out one evening and she canceled on me, which is fine, but ball was in her court to reschedule and I never heard from her.  Her loss.  Next girl seemed like she had too much drama for my taste:  initial conversation she told me that she was talking to three different guys (I can’t even find ONE I want to talk to) and then she was traveling and next thing you know, she comes back from vacation and she’s “rekindling” things with her ex.  I’m happy for her and blah, blah, blah (all that stuff I’m supposed to say) but in reality, why is she telling a complete stranger this stuff – shouldn’t it be more of an “I like to do this and that” convo vs. “boys, boys, boys?” Am I just mean? I can’t decide, regardless – she said we should meet for coffee and next thing you know my app was deleted!  WHOOPS!!

But I didn’t really need it, I went to a girls night last night!! My lovely friend Ashley recommended I try a group called Richmond Ladies of Lager – these are beer lovers who go to all sorts of restaurants and breweries around town!  So I did it, I got out of my comfort zone and walked up to a group of five strangers and said “Hi, I’m Elizabeth” and they made me feel very welcome and I enjoyed the time I spent with them and I’m looking forward to the next event – which happens weekly!!!

Can’t leave a post without some pictures.  Not a lot over the last few weeks, but here’s some!!

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Girls Weekend in RVA

What’s better than a weekend spent with girlfriends?  In my opinion, there’s not a lot!! It was EXACTLY what I needed when two of my best friends came up to spend the weekend with me a couple weeks ago.  These are girls who I have known for more than 20 years, and we truly know EVERYTHING about each other and can laugh at all our embarrassing moments, share some of our darkest secrets and keep “non-postable” pictures from the weekend to ourselves! THANK GOODNESS, we all have each others backs!!!

And yes, it is hard to believe it’s been so long since we were in high school, when we drove around like we owned the world listening to Robert Myles and just waiting for one of our parents to tell us they were going out of town for the weekend, so we could start planning the party!  Thankfully our friendship has remained strong and we are just as close (if not closer) as we were back then.

I received one of the greatest compliments from someone taking our picture when he asked:

“Are you girls related, or have you just known each other so long you’re morphing into each other”

Unfortunately Ashley and Katie were only here for less than 48-hours, but we fit in as much as possible and had such a great time! We spent way too much money, drank way too much alcohol, devoured a years worth of calories and added to our never-ending list of memories.

Their flight was delayed and after hearing the horror story from the flight, I was concerned they wouldn’t get back on another airplane! (Although that wouldn’t have been too horrible!) We went straight to The Daily to get them (and me) fed – Katie got off the flight white-faced and me, geographically stupid, kept taking the wrong turn. She handled it WAY better than I would have handled it and probably was cursing my name internally the entire time!!! Food was just what we needed to fuel us for an afternoon walking around Cary Street, which I absolutely love to do. Unfortunately we ran out of time to hit up ALL the cute little shops (although my wallet is probably saying “fortunately”) but we had a fun rooftop bar that was calling our name!

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We made it to one of my favorites, Lunch or Supper for a late evening dinner where we had appetizers to set a base for the rest of our evening. Major fail on my part when I tried taking them to the breweries and THEY CLOSED AT 10:00!!! I knew it was early, but not THAT early on a Friday night. DULY NOTED! Went to one more rooftop bar before catching up with Brian who was at a place right by my house. And LET.ME.TELL.YOU. we were VERY much out of place.

 

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I honestly would’ve never realized this little place that I thought was a restaurant (and always wondered how it made money because it was never open) turned into a club at night.  There were glow sticks, a DJ, balloons being tossed around and lots of drinks being poured. In the restroom Katie and Ashley were asked if they were teachers – they said “NO!” and the response was “Well your friend is, right?” (asking about me) WHAT?!? we looked cute!!! How could this be?!?!

We went home with our head down in shame, but woke up the next day to do things more age-appropriate (apparently).

First stop:  COFFEE, sorry girls, I don’t have a coffee maker.

Then off to Maymont, which O-M-G, I am OBSESSED, I had no idea this was literally in my backyard.  Ok, not literally, but only about 10 mins from my house!!! I have been coming to Richmond for 12 years and only heard about it, I didn’t know anything more.  But now, I realize it is a 100-yard estate, with trails and a public park and GOATS you could petThere is also a bear, a boar (I believe) and Japanese Gardens, that unfortunately we didn’t get to see!!! The grounds were so pretty and we could’ve explored there all day.  We did make a point to tour the mansion and pet a few goats (one even bit my finger in the cutest way possible), but definitely need to spend more time there in the future.

However, the wineries in Charlottesville were calling our names.  We hit my favorite of them all, PippinHill. No, it has nothing to do with the name, it is just BEAUTIFUL and the views are amazing!!! There we met some girls who said they went to Jefferson Vineyards and we figured we would go there because they were open later and I have never been. They actually had a concert going on that night that we would’ve loved to attend, but it’s a far drive and we needed to get back. NEXT TIME!

PIPPIN HILL FARM & VINEYARDS:

JEFFERSON VINEYARDS:

Came back and had dinner at The Savory Grain, before we had one last stop at another rooftop bar.

As always, I was a bit ambitious with my planning, but we fit A LOT into a lil bit of time and had a blast.

Things I learned the weekend:

  1. I need to memorize the words to Gangsta Paradise (those two were belting out all the words on the way home from the wineries – I was quite impressed)
  2. I’m a bit of a prude and I never realized it until I was given a glow stick at the club and I legitimately had no idea what to do with it
  3. The word decollage – THANKS ASH 😉

Thanks for visiting, love you ladies!!! 

 

 

 

 

Summertime Wedding in ATL

This post has been a long one coming, and in reality, I’ve probably been intimated that I wouldn’t do it a bit of justice, but one of my best friends got married last month and the weekend and wedding could not have been more perfect!!

For months upon months, I was getting questions from bride “do you think I should do this?” I’d immediately give my first response and she’d say “but if I did that, then this could happen” it was things I hadn’t thought about because a) my head wasn’t nearly as engrossed in wedding planning as hers and b) I have never planned a wedding. So I don’t think I was a lot of help, maybe only a sounding board!

Truthfully, I have always said that I never wanted a wedding. (Do I want to get married? 110%!!!  But planning, paying and having a wedding of my own is definitely not in the cards.) With that being said, if I were to have a wedding, I’d do it very similar to Kasey’s – everything was absolutely PERFECT and not an detail was missed!!!

Before we get in to all things wedding, major shout out to this picture-perfect couple who did a fantastic job hosting and putting together an unfortgettable wedding weekend!

KS and Russ

I flew in to Atlanta on Thursday morning and spent the day doing all-things-girly! We immediately went to Ponce City Market and had lunch at H&F Burger.  This area was so cute and Kasey definitely knows how to speak my language with cute little shops and a burger joint! But we couldn’t stay long because we had reservations to get a mani/pedi and then my first professional spray tan at Raw Bronzing Studio and WOW – I am obsessed, a little awkward standing there basically nude, but the tan was WELL WORTH IT. I just wish it lasted weeks instead of days.

That evening we had dinner plans at the bride and grooms favorite restaurant, Porch Light and made it a semi-early night because we knew we had a big/busy weekend ahead! We woke up on Friday morning and made breakfast for a house full of people. Then headed to the rehearsal, but the REAL fun began that evening.  Kasey and Russ had their rehearsal dinner at the penthouse (I guess that’s what it would be called) of the OMNI hotel at The Battery overlooking the Atlanta Braves game.  Not only was the room spectacular, but the sky was picturesque and the food/desserts were crave-able good. Kasey also had Cracker Jacks and popcorn set up all around to stick with the baseball theme! It truly was awesome!!!

We woke up to hair and makeup AND breakfast and MIMOSAS – can’t beat that!!!  It was a day of pampering before heading to the wedding venue, The Wheeler House where the ceremony and reception were hosted.  The wedding was outside in late July, but the weather was actually surprisingly nice!!! The ceremony itself only lasted approximately 15 mins, then the partay began!!! SO-MUCH-FUN!!! They didn’t do the traditional bouquet or garter toss, but they picked all the music and it really got everyone dancing! Close to the end of the night, they brought out light up necklaces and sunglasses which was so hilariously funny and a HUGE hit!!! Then we took a bus back to Atlanta and the dance party continued on the bus, while I played DJ!! (Note to self:  Figure out music playlist before I nominate myself to take control of music) It was the shortest hour-long bus ride and we did not want it to end. BUT….we went back to the penthouse for a few more cocktails and then out at a bar in The Battery to top off the evening. Even convinced the bride/groom to join us!!!

I am seriously impressed – Kasey (this bride) should quit her day job and become an official wedding planner.  She did an excellent job!!! I know I mentioned it earlier, but it truly was an unfortgettable weekend and I was honored to be the maid of honor and be there for her on her special day!

I wish I would’ve gotten more pictures with the bride/groom, BUT they were a HOT COMMODITY and there was literally a line to snag a quick pic.

Thanks again Kasey & Russ – CONGRATULATIONS!!! 

Comical Conversations

This post is going to be short because I have two of my favorite ladies coming to visit me this weekend and I CANNOT be more excited 🙂 I have a laundry list of things to do, but little time to get it done!

I’m honestly not sure what I’ve been doing and why I’ve been so MIA from this blog lately, but I am staying busy and still loving it up  here.  Woke up this morning to work out and I was actually cold going to the gym!!! It was 65 degrees at 6:15am and the high today is supposed to 80 with no humidity.  I don’t think this is common for August, but I will certainly take it.

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Dating scene isn’t going any better, but that’s ok, I honestly don’t have time for it right now.  I think I mentioned before that I got on a new app and honestly I think I did it more for the comic relief.

Few of the more comical conversations:

Dude Man #1:  “Let’s hang out asap, bring your dog to my place, my little buddy (his shih-tzu) needs a friend while mommy and daddy hang out.”

Logical Female (Me): “Call me old fashioned, but I don’t think going to a complete strangers house is the smartest idea”

Dude Man #1: “All I can say is I like you, I’m a good man.”

Logical Female (Me): “You don’t even know me”

…….(thinking to myself let’s entertain this conversation a bit more)

“What kind of appraisals do you specialize in?” (this was in his profile, we have had no more conversation other than what’s mentioned above)

Dude Man #1: “I bang out the big bucks with quick office and industrial appraisals…I have my ways of getting what I want.”

Logical Female (Me): “Nice”

(that’s my way of saying end of convo, no further interaction needed)

Dude Man #1: (A couple days later) “Hey Baby, what’s up?”

Logical Female (Me):  SILENCE (baby, really?!?!)

…….(at this point, I really want to delete him, but I am more interested to see if he continues conversation and arrogance)

 

Dude Man #2: “Do you sleep with socks on or off?”

Oblivious Female (Me):  “I actually do prefer to sleep with socks on, but it’s not a necessity.  I feel it keeps me warmer and I sleep better.”

Dude Man #2:  “That’s a deal breaker, it means you have scaly feet.”

Oblivious Female (Me):  No response, just deleted and blocked him immediately – what a FREAK!!!

Now this is how you get me to continue a conversation:

Dude Man #3: “I’m a Jags fan and have been looking for someone to watch games with me!”

Excited Female (Me): “Wow, really, I didn’t think any existed in Richmond.”

Dude Man #3:  “Yeah, I’m originally from Tallahassee”

…….Where this gets really funny: He is 24!!! WHAT THE ?!?!

So on this new dating app, it asks for your age range and if it’s a deal breaker – I put age 31-41, but not a deal breaker – didn’t think it would go back to ages as young as 21!!! Guys are actually “liking” me that are 21 and one even said “You don’t look like you’re 36!” Thank you, sir – you just made my year!!! 

Anyway, back to prepping for an exciting weekend ahead 🙂 Have a great day everyone!!

Dating, Kindness and Absolutely Nothing

Well I’m back and I have absolutely nothing to say, which means I’m going to ramble on and somehow lose track of time and I apologize in advance when you’ve been reading a post for five minutes and got ABSOLUTELY NOTHING out it! But hey, it beats scrolling through Facebook 😉

I have been on a bit of a writing hiatus and the truth is I haven’t been in the mood to write. How can that even be possible??? Me not have anything to say?  Well as I mentioned in my last post, things aren’t always the way they seem and I put on a happy face even when I’m not so happy! BUT I see a light at the end of the tunnel and each day is getting better and better!  Plus, I’ve found a new show on Netflix that I am binging and to be honest, I would rather be watching it right now, but I have been MIA for far too long! The show is “The Sinner” and I just finished the 5th episode, there’s a total of 8, but it is soooo good.  And that’s saying a lot from someone who doesn’t watch tv, let alone binge tv!!!

Just a follow-up on the whole dating thing, I faulted and got back on a dating app.  I figured I’m new here and need to meet people regardless.  The one I got on is new and I figured why not try it. So it makes it justifiable?  Right? Well I will say, I like it better, there’s no swiping and more information prior to just “matching” with someone. You can see their education, where they’re from, if they have kids and whether they smoke/drink/do drugs.

Plus my dad said I needed to give people more of a shot and I shouldn’t deny someone for the unsolicited selfie that I mentioned before.  Something tells me the reason he’s telling me that is because I get these text messages from him almost nightly – even before the mention of the unsolicited selfie.  (and this is actually a good picture compared to the others!)

So – new dating app, led me to meet a new guy and I went out with him and he actually got a second date – WHHAAATTT?  BUT….that’s as far as he made it, no sense in leading him on if I knew it wasn’t going to go any farther. Why you ask?  He had a weird quirkiness about him (as my sister said, so does every man in our family – ahem, see above), he was a bit needy and made crude comments (which doesn’t typically bother me, but wait until you at least know me for more than two dates!!!)

I talked to other single friends and determined that I may start blogging about some of the horrible dating stories! Don’t get me wrong, dating can be fun – but it’s also EXHAUSTING!!! And in reality, it’s comical – comical how other people live their lives!  My life is by no means perfect, but it’s funny how people can be so vastly different.

Episode 6 is calling my name, but I have to give a shout out to one of my best friends who did the nicest, most thoughtful thing for me. In my last post, I mentioned to do something nice to make someone’s day and THAT-EXACT-THING happened to me the last week.  My friend Ashley is so incredibly thoughtful – she knew I was having a bad week, and somehow finagled a way to send me food!!! Figured out my address, found a restauran in town that delivers and she was definitely speaking my language by sending me steak frites! I was denying the calls/text messages from the VA area code – let’s face it, if I don’t know the number I am Googling it before answering it and nothing was coming up.  Ashley finally texted saying she was trying to have something delivered, so I quickly ran outside in a complete state of confusion and was so happy to see a meal waiting for me.  I devoured that food (and enjoyed it for lunch the next day!) Thanks again Ash! IMG_0993

A lil Bit of A Lot

Well last post was a HUGE success, so it made me realize maybe I should get more personal – I’ve always said I’m an open book, so why not?  YOU’VE BEEN WARNED!

The post about dating in today’s world gave me the most amount of views I have ever received, even topping my big adventure which, at that time, I thought was a lot!  I can’t see who reads my posts, but I can see how many times my link has been clicked from Facebook or Instagram. This doesn’t include people who physically type in http://www.alilbitofpip.com to the browser or receive emails. ….and believe it or not, I have “friends” I’ve never met following me (meaning they signed up to get email notifications every time I publish a blog) – so if that is you THANK YOU!!! On that note, Facebook is not allowing my website to post directly to it anymore, so if you want to make sure you get all my mindless reading posts, make sure to click on the “follow” link below and provide your email address.

Anyway, I figured I’d do better about giving the good, the bad AND THE UGLY when it comes to all things in life!!!

(I still have a post to publish after an amazing weekend in Atlanta for one of my best friends weddings, but I have not been in the right mindset for the last week and need to devote more time/effort to write that post because the weekend was nothing short of perfect)

To be honest, the last week was probably one of the roughest weeks I’ve had in a while, a lot poured down at once and truthfully, I have been a basket case.  I try to keep a happy face on, but it’s not always the grins and giggles I portray. My loving mother has called me randomly just to see what I’m doing (aka check on me), even though she knows good and well I’m working and my poor sister went out for dinner and drinks with me just because she knew I needed to get away. I’ve had friends send texts knowing that things aren’t right, and I won’t react to them and act like everything is fine, but truly I am thankful for them!

I’m not going to get in to all the details as to why it’s been a difficult week – everyone I love is happy and healthy, so I will get through everything else in time. But the one thing I have to say is to make an effort to smile and say hello to a stranger and give them a compliment. It’s definitely easier said than done, but something so little can go a long way!  I said this years ago when I was going through a tough time and went for a lunchtime walk and saw a homeless guy who asked me how I was doing, I said, “I’m well, how are you?” his response: “I’m blessed”  and I kept thinking to myself, you’re homeless, but still feel blessed!  That put everything in PERSPECTIVE!

I will report more with what’s going on, but it’s way past my bedtime and I just didn’t want to go too long without a quick message. Picture with my Sunday brunch dates – who entertained me this weekend 💞 Sorry Kenny G. – I will make sure you’re included next time!

 

Dating in 2018

The truth about dating today, it sucks – I mean absolutely horrible and don’t let anyone tell you differently.  I’m not sure who all these people are that can chronically date, I can’t even find someone I want to go on date #2 with, let alone #1.

I get the question ALL THE TIME, “Why are you single?”  Well, I have finally figured it out, and NO, it’s not my need to incessantly sing and dance anytime Deanna Carter comes on the radio or the lack of vegetables in my diet (well maybe it is 🤔 but that’s not what this is about!)

It’s me and I am friggin crazy. Not in the sense of “I’m going to obsessively call you”, “need to know where you are” or “watch your back” kind of crazy, but in the sense that a guy doesn’t get a second (or first) date with me because he has bad grammar or spelling. Yes, there, I said it…. I’m sorry, but I’m 36 years old and have what I consider to be a good job and expect my potential significant other to know the difference between “your” and “you’re”. Personally, I don’t think that’s too much to ask, I mean seriously, would you send an email to your boss with bad spelling or grammar, NO – then why would you send it to someone you are potentially pursuing or wanting to impress?

Then there’s those that spell “prolly” instead of “probably” or “cus” instead of “because” – and to be perfectly honest, I don’t even like “K” – How hard is it to put an “O” in front of the “K”?!?! OOOOK!!!!

That’s why texting has been so horrible for dating, a) you don’t get to “hear” tone in text, b) more room for grammatical or spelling errors and/or c) there is absolutely NO effort that is put in to it. It’s not difficult to send a text saying “have a good day”. What makes it a bit more meaningful is, get this…..A CONVERSATION!!! Texting is just entertainment – I’m guilty, I do it ALL THE TIME! But I do think it’s dangerous when combined with dating.

Obviously, I’m new to Richmond and wanting to meet new people, so I got on a dating app and I’ve had some ok dates, but nothing that has just blown me away with excitement. My poor mother keeps saying “have you met anyone” and my typical response is “not anyone worth talking about”. I am officially off the app, but figured the final straw would prove why I’m “crazy” and figured I’d share!

The last guy I was supposed to go out with, sent me, what I consider to be, an “unsolicited selfie” (a picture of himself that I didn’t ask for or ever make any mention of wanting from previous conversations) and the caption below was “through day” – ummm, what?!?!  I’m sorry, do you mean “TOUGH day”? 🤦🏼‍♀️ Yep, he was sending a picture of him “working” by a pool, but couldn’t even capture it properly. Typically, this could’ve been a one-off thing, but during the last (text) conversation we had, I gave him a hard time for not using the correct spelling for “your” and even told him grammar and spelling is a big thing to me, so the fact that he couldn’t spell “tough” properly made me cut communication.

I gave him a smart a** comment letting him know that his “smart” phone messed up again (his excuse for the previous misspelling of “your”) and after that I stopped responding. I know it wasn’t exactly the nicest thing and I probably shouldn’t have done it.  But in reality, what am I supposed to say “umm…I’m sorry, I can’t go out with you, you spelled ‘tough’ incorrectly and sent me an unsolicited selfie!” Figured it was best since I can’t say anything nice, I shouldn’t say anything at all.  RIGHT? 🤷‍♀️

So maybe, if I’m ever bored again and decide to get online (which fingers crossed doesn’t happen,) I should provide a link to this post and give a full disclosure of my “crazy”!

Again, this is probably why I’m single – among other reasons I’m sure – and MANY people will disagree with me, but it’s just my personal opinion and a little comedic relief on Hump Day.  Texting and dating

 

 

I’m back!

I’m baaccckkk – I’m sure many of you have been patiently waiting for a post after two weeks and I couldn’t think of any better time than a rainy Sunday morning watching Friends re-runs. I’ve been staying busy and marking a lot off my Richmond to-do’s, but work has been insanely busy and the last thing I want to do is get on my computer in the evenings.

I have absolutely been loving Richmond and exploring new places. I keep thinking how much certain friends from back home would love certain places/things to do!

A couple weeks ago I went on a wine tour with my sister and her friends – which, let’s face it after a day of wine, they are my friends now too 😝 I went to wineries I have already been to, but always a great time – the weather couldn’t have been more perfect and we had a bus so were able to start the party on the way out and continue it all the way to the end.  I had a blast and apparently danced in the bus (with the others) on the way back home – I may have fogged memory from the evening, but my nephew told me I kept telling him how much I love him.  Not sure if that makes me “aunt of the year” or what, but in fairness, I think it is a good thing because he saw me as a nice drunk, not mean! 🤷‍♀️

The next morning, I woke my nephew up at 10:00AM 🙄 telling him the weather was so nice and asked him if he’d go do something outside with me! He eagerly accepted, which I was surprised because it was so early in his world and we decided to go play miniature golf – which as a side note: is WAY underrated, we had a blast and should consider doing it more often!

 

The following weekend, I had my niece for the day and at her request, we went to Circuit which is an arcade bar where you can pour your own beers and play games! Kids are allowed until 9:00pm.  Brian caught up with us and we played ski ball and air hockey and had so much fun! The only thing we didn’t get to do was Dance Dance Revolution because a grown man wouldn’t let the 10 year old have a shot!  🤦🏼‍♀️ I had my fun with a couple beers and took Brian and Caroline to Shyndigz for cake afterward!

 

That evening, I went out with a new friend to a new (to me) taco place, Boka and probably ate way too much, but who doesn’t eat way too much when it comes to tacos? Then we went to the this cool little hole in the wall place, Cary Street Cafe, that had live music and apparently does every night – I really enjoyed it!

Weekend highlights were included, but weekdays have been pretty busy as well – with new workout routines, bocce ball and Taco Tuesdays. No complaints!!!

We are less than a week away from my beautiful friend Kasey’s wedding and I cannot be more excited to head to Atlanta next week to stand by her side!!!

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